1 00:00:06,820 --> 00:00:07,653 - Hey everybody, 2 00:00:07,653 --> 00:00:08,486 this is Amber Spotten, 3 00:00:08,486 --> 00:00:10,433 your Sexual Assault Response Coordinator. 4 00:00:10,433 --> 00:00:12,850 I am part of your Resiliency Team 5 00:00:12,850 --> 00:00:14,352 here at the 173rd. 6 00:00:14,352 --> 00:00:15,830 As you've noticed, 7 00:00:15,830 --> 00:00:17,899 we've been putting out a variety of different videos 8 00:00:17,899 --> 00:00:19,460 over the last few months, 9 00:00:19,460 --> 00:00:21,860 to help give ideas and share ideas 10 00:00:21,860 --> 00:00:25,750 of how we've all been able to adjust 11 00:00:25,750 --> 00:00:26,680 to the different changes 12 00:00:26,680 --> 00:00:28,043 in our work life, our family life, 13 00:00:28,043 --> 00:00:32,000 and our social life with the restrictions in place 14 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:33,873 and with COVID-19. 15 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:37,830 So my last video that I put together, 16 00:00:37,830 --> 00:00:40,610 I talked a bit about being outdoors, right? 17 00:00:40,610 --> 00:00:43,060 Going on walks, going on bikes, things like that. 18 00:00:44,030 --> 00:00:45,400 This week has kind of highlighted 19 00:00:45,400 --> 00:00:48,550 that maybe that's not always an option, 20 00:00:48,550 --> 00:00:49,810 'cause we don't control the weather, 21 00:00:49,810 --> 00:00:52,300 and it's been kind of rainy lately. 22 00:00:52,300 --> 00:00:56,330 So it reminded me of just the concept of mind the gap. 23 00:00:56,330 --> 00:00:58,640 And so what I mean by mind the gap 24 00:00:58,640 --> 00:01:03,640 is sometimes we have an expectation of ourselves, of others, 25 00:01:04,060 --> 00:01:05,680 of the circumstances, 26 00:01:05,680 --> 00:01:07,790 and then we have reality. 27 00:01:07,790 --> 00:01:09,502 We have what really happens, 28 00:01:09,502 --> 00:01:11,320 what life brings us, 29 00:01:11,320 --> 00:01:14,440 and we can't always control that reality, 30 00:01:14,440 --> 00:01:17,020 we can't always control what life brings us, right? 31 00:01:17,020 --> 00:01:22,020 And so we have to be mindful that there is this gap 32 00:01:22,080 --> 00:01:24,893 between our expectation and between reality. 33 00:01:26,128 --> 00:01:31,128 So one of the things that's important to acknowledge 34 00:01:31,365 --> 00:01:33,610 when we identify that 35 00:01:33,610 --> 00:01:35,720 is that it might throw our emotions, 36 00:01:35,720 --> 00:01:38,260 it might throw our stress level out of balance. 37 00:01:38,260 --> 00:01:40,363 And so when this happens, 38 00:01:42,660 --> 00:01:43,860 one of the things that I have found that has been helpful 39 00:01:43,860 --> 00:01:46,102 is to engage the different senses. 40 00:01:46,102 --> 00:01:48,063 So I was gonna share with you today 41 00:01:48,063 --> 00:01:52,680 on some of the things that I have engaged in 42 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:53,899 and that work for me. 43 00:01:53,899 --> 00:01:56,260 They may work for you, which is great, 44 00:01:56,260 --> 00:01:57,572 they may not, which is great too. 45 00:01:57,572 --> 00:01:59,620 But maybe it gives you ideas 46 00:01:59,620 --> 00:02:02,660 to figure out what might work for you. 47 00:02:02,660 --> 00:02:04,913 So when it comes to the things that I can see, 48 00:02:04,913 --> 00:02:07,720 it's a really great thing for me 49 00:02:07,720 --> 00:02:10,370 to just go kind of do a trip down memory lane, 50 00:02:10,370 --> 00:02:12,450 whether it be going through my phone 51 00:02:12,450 --> 00:02:13,690 and flipping through pictures, 52 00:02:13,690 --> 00:02:15,949 going through a photo album, 53 00:02:15,949 --> 00:02:18,257 checking out some videos. 54 00:02:18,257 --> 00:02:21,300 Generally I like to listen to music, 55 00:02:21,300 --> 00:02:23,550 so I have to be mindful, however, 56 00:02:23,550 --> 00:02:25,340 of how the music is impacting me, 57 00:02:25,340 --> 00:02:28,770 because there are times where I might be super-agitated, 58 00:02:28,770 --> 00:02:30,900 or irritated, or overly stressed, 59 00:02:30,900 --> 00:02:33,270 and really upbeat music 60 00:02:33,270 --> 00:02:36,260 is not gonna help reduce that level 61 00:02:36,260 --> 00:02:38,300 of frustration or irritation, 62 00:02:38,300 --> 00:02:40,240 it just may keep me there. 63 00:02:40,240 --> 00:02:43,291 So I'll have to engage in listening to more mellow music 64 00:02:43,291 --> 00:02:47,063 to kind of help calm and soothe those senses. 65 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:49,760 Whereas on the flip side, 66 00:02:49,760 --> 00:02:52,050 if I'm kind of having a just bum day 67 00:02:52,050 --> 00:02:55,169 where I'm just not feeling like doing anything, 68 00:02:55,169 --> 00:02:58,120 I'll throw in something that's a little bit more upbeat, 69 00:02:58,120 --> 00:02:59,759 that kinda gets me going, 70 00:02:59,759 --> 00:03:02,590 and kinda pumps me up and makes me excited for the day 71 00:03:02,590 --> 00:03:03,710 and to face the day. 72 00:03:03,710 --> 00:03:08,654 I enjoy smelling a lot of different scents. 73 00:03:08,654 --> 00:03:13,380 My absolute favorite is lilac. 74 00:03:13,380 --> 00:03:15,463 So any time I walk past a lilac bush, 75 00:03:15,463 --> 00:03:17,233 I instantly just, 76 00:03:17,233 --> 00:03:19,580 it just brings me that sense of peace. 77 00:03:19,580 --> 00:03:21,657 So our scent of taste is probably the hardest 78 00:03:21,657 --> 00:03:23,127 to keep in moderation, 79 00:03:23,127 --> 00:03:24,920 because that's one of those things 80 00:03:24,920 --> 00:03:26,510 that comes with consequences, right? 81 00:03:26,510 --> 00:03:31,510 Like, so I found that my favorite go-to 82 00:03:31,980 --> 00:03:34,050 when kinda things are tough, 83 00:03:34,050 --> 00:03:36,008 is gonna be really anything chocolate. 84 00:03:36,008 --> 00:03:39,210 Chocolate chip cookies, always a great one, 85 00:03:39,210 --> 00:03:41,569 or a great peanut butter cookie. 86 00:03:41,569 --> 00:03:44,300 But those have to be done in moderation. 87 00:03:44,300 --> 00:03:46,489 And so just be mindful of, 88 00:03:46,489 --> 00:03:50,120 it brings a lot of great ah moment, 89 00:03:50,120 --> 00:03:52,970 but think of the consequences afterwards. 90 00:03:52,970 --> 00:03:57,340 And so that might be one of those tucked away senses 91 00:03:57,340 --> 00:03:59,680 that we utilize sparingly, 92 00:03:59,680 --> 00:04:03,250 unless if you have a really great affinity 93 00:04:03,250 --> 00:04:06,950 to strawberries, or bananas, or something healthy. 94 00:04:06,950 --> 00:04:08,133 And the sense of touch. 95 00:04:09,250 --> 00:04:11,810 Obviously, like as I mentioned before, 96 00:04:11,810 --> 00:04:13,680 I really enjoy my fur babies, 97 00:04:13,680 --> 00:04:17,540 and so they are generally my favorite thing to cuddle. 98 00:04:17,540 --> 00:04:19,434 So hopefully going through the five senses 99 00:04:19,434 --> 00:04:21,790 kinda gets your brain thinking 100 00:04:21,790 --> 00:04:23,440 to just those natural things 101 00:04:23,440 --> 00:04:25,520 that kind of bring you that sense of peace 102 00:04:25,520 --> 00:04:26,620 to help mind that gap 103 00:04:26,620 --> 00:04:28,730 as we continue forward with uncertainty 104 00:04:28,730 --> 00:04:31,020 and not knowing exactly how things are gonna play out 105 00:04:31,020 --> 00:04:32,810 over these next few months. 106 00:04:32,810 --> 00:04:36,280 And I'd definitely love to have you share 107 00:04:36,280 --> 00:04:37,510 kinda what works for you, 108 00:04:37,510 --> 00:04:40,771 and share your thoughts with me, or others. 109 00:04:40,771 --> 00:04:44,620 Know that any one of us on the Resiliency Team 110 00:04:44,620 --> 00:04:48,093 are always happy to chat with you all and learn from you, 111 00:04:49,843 --> 00:04:52,653 and we'll get through this together.